[ Singles & Dating ] Open Question : why does he want to have ''self control'' around me?

[ Singles & Dating ] Open Question : why does he want to have ''self
control'' around me?

Why does he want to have ''self control'' around me? my bf and I are 18
and I dont want to have sex before marriage and I know he wants to do it
with me, now.. We making out and he put his hand under my top and felt my
back/breasts and stomach and then i lifted his shirt a bit then he put his
stomach against my stomach and continued kissing me.. It got really
intimate and the next day I felt bad because it could have gone to another
level.. at this party we both were going to, I said that we have to behave
ourselves and tone down the lust and he genuinely agreed and that we need
to slow down (even though he wants it..?) and I know this is a good thing
for me as it's what i want but at the party he followed through with his
words and whenever we started kissing, he pulled away and was like
''...self control...'' then the following day he said to me via text:
him-- 'i dont think we should kiss like that again because... you know..
we should tone it right down. me-- you mean just in front of people or
even when it's just us 2? him-- hmm, both but definitely when it's in
front of others. me-- okay, why? :) him-- just like you said, we're
getting too too lustful.. it's not like we won't ever do it again ;)
because i enjoy it. me-- how's self control these days? you seem to be
getting better him-- it's still difficult because you know I want to...
but you're training me well. ;) Was he being a gentleman? i dont think
he's embarrassed or anything of me cause whenever im there in front of him
and his friends, they always are like ''god -- you're lucky to have her''
(physically)